"i don't date black girls"

It greatly annoys me when a man just blatantly says this.

I've been getting a lot of friend requests thanks to my shiny new Cadette status. I have basically been adding everyone and making separate lists so I can still maintain a level of privacy on certain aspects of my page (pictures mostly but will be status updates soon). I still need to make a list of my absolute closest friends to share extremely personal pictures and such with.

Anyway, I randomly looked at someone's page that I friended. It was some black guy, apparently a gamer. He was listing off a bunch of stuff he's into - various hobbies and whatnot. Then at the bottom, like some after thought that needed to be said, he states "oh, and I don't date black girls"

The awkward placement of this statement and the way it seemed to have been said kind of pissed me off. Not that this guy is attempting to date me and could quite possibly have loads of black friends (and is not attractive enough for me to even think about saying him...just saying), but it annoys me when folks just say this like it *must* be known.

A majority of the time you ONLY see/hear black people say this. You don't hear others stating they don't date a certain race. Even if they don't date a particular race, I hardly ever see them needing to state this. It's like a great deal of black guys dare a black woman to even approach them - like if she does they will tear her down just because of her race.

I'm a strong believer in black love. I love black men. I'm also not so close minded that I would not date outside of my race - so Interracial dating isn't the problem here. The problem is people - black MEN - dismissing black women simply because they *are* black.

Statistics show 45% of black women never get married. Know why? In my opinion it is because they rarely get a chance. they are already type casted because of their race, already stamped and labeled based on age old stereotypes that only a few probably embrace.

I, for one, am not some stereotypical black women. I am college educated. Intelligent. Classy. With unique hobbies and interests. A gamer. A cosplayer. A lolita. And, yes, I may be strong willed and speak my mind but that is because I know if I want to make it in this world I need to be fierce. Not only am I a woman, I am a BLACK woman and damn proud to be one.

So, whether or not some closeminded dude automatically wouldn't want to date me because of the color of my skin, I know that I'm a catch that doesn't lump herself in with millions of other women who are all individuals and different beings from all walks of life with all sorts of personalities who may have one common thing (race) but differ in everything else.

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